That’s what this site is about. It’s about learning the best ways to attract women and making sure you are up on the best advice for your money situation.

You don’t want to be the guy who can’t afford to take a lady out for drinks or who has collection agencies calling you while you are getting romantic with a woman.

Researchers from Oxford and the University of Gothenburg studied personal ads and came up with the conclusion that yes, men want a woman who looks good and women want a man who has money. This just backs up many earlier studies and theories that state the exact same thing.

But don’t worry if you are a working-class man, you still are showing that you can provide, not matter where you fall on the income spectrum. You don’t have to be loaded, but you should be financially responsible if you want to be attractive to women.

It just makes sense that a woman would naturally want to date a man who can responsibly handle his finances. It goes back to how men and women are biologically programmed and what they look for in a mate, even if that is a subconscious desire.

For instance, men are biologically and genetically programmed to seek out a woman who is physically attractive. This is what men respond to on the deepest cellular level.

Women, on the other hand, are genetically programmed to be attracted to men who are providers. That is because in the early ages, women depended on men for physical protection for both them and their offspring.

That is why women look to men for security. Even the most powerful and successful women at some innate level look for men who can provide security – even if they are the money makers in the relationship. That is why being financially sound is so important to attracting women.

Again, let me re-iterate, it’s not the amassing of wealth that matters to women, it is the ability to be fiscally responsible. That could mean any steady income coming in, even if it just is enough to make the bills – it still shows responsibility on the man’s part and the ability to provide.

It’s all on a subconscious level. Some women would deny that this makes a difference at all, but would subconsciously make choices that dispute that. Other women are pretty clear that someone who is not fiscally responsible would not stand a chance with them.

So by visiting this site, you are getting advice on two critical areas that will help you find success with women – dating advice and money tips. Study both areas and you will see your dating life improve tenfold. Remember it doesn’t take a lot of money to be successful with women but it does take some time and effort to become the best man you can be.

All of us work hard for a reason. We go into work and come out of work because we want money, right? Money buys us things and allows us to live in this modern world. But what do we mean by ‘live’? What exactly is this ‘living’ that we are focused on?

The real truth is that we live according to a set of values. We continually perform actions based on values: our values mixed with the values of others. For example, my top value is my family. I want a good, fulfilling life for my wife and my son so that they can easily define and follow their own values.

Every person has a set of between four and six primary values that underline their life (we may have other values, but those values are secondary to the primary ones). Financial problems occur through distortions of those values: we come to believe that some things are vital to these values when they really don’t matter. Generally, this is what advertising seeks to do: it tries to express a core value that some people have and make their product seem essential to achieving that value.

So, our first step is to define exactly what our values are. We are not defining goals here! Goals are specific actions, like “retiring at age fifty five” or “paying for my son’s graduate school. What we are looking for are values. Friends. Love. Freedom. Truth. What are the fundamental items that make you tick? At the end of this post is a list of thirty potential values that one might list; you can look at these if you’re an example-oriented person.

At first, this seems pretty difficult, so here’s a procedure that will help you get in the right mindset.

First, get calm and relaxed. For me, this usually comes after a nice meal with a glass of wine or a great craft beer. I can clear my mind and think about my life. Do whatever gets you relaxed: have a massage, lay down in bed, or anything that increases your calmness.

Second, be honest. No one has to see this list, so write down what really comes from inside of you. You might write down things like “power” or “excitement” that you might not want to show other people, or you might be tempted to write down “family” because your significant other would expect it – but it’s not really important to you.

Third, close your eyes and ask yourself what is really important in your life. If nothing comes immediately, don’t worry about it. Think about the moments where you feel most whole and fulfilled and that feeling stays with you, not a temporary, passing feeling.

As you discover values, write them down. Just make a list on a sheet of paper. It doesn’t have to be ranked in any way. Once you’ve discovered a value that’s important to you, just add it at the bottom of the list. You’ll know when you are done; don’t worry too much about how many you’ve written down.

If you have more than six values, ask yourself if any of them are actually the same value. Quite often, if you get above six values on our list, you’ll realize that two of the values are actually the same thing. If they are, just combine them, or cross off one of them.

If you have fewer than four values, think about them some more. Most people have at least four central values in their lives, so spend some more time to make sure you’re not missing anything.

Once you have this list, save it. We’ll not only refer to it in later steps, but it will probably be valuable to you. See you tomorrow!

If you need some help getting started, here is a list of thirty values that you might have in your life. Note that this isn’t a list of all possible values, just a selection of some values to help you get started.

Adventure
Balance
Beauty
Cleanliness
Confidence
Control
Creativity (music, film, food, etc.)
Education
Excitement
Family
Friends
Freedom
Fulfillment
Fun
Growth
Happiness
Health
Independence
Leadership
Love
Making a difference
Marriage
Peace of mind
Power
Security
Service
Sharing
Spirituality
The environment
Truth